Getting Creative

I was pondering about a previous post "Change your Mind," which made me change my mind. What I want, how I want it, and who I want it from is alot of demands. If I want certain things I must start creating those things myself. I can ask someone to create those things for me, however I know that when I have to ask someone to do it for me, it's done because I asked not because their heart felt the need to do it. Honestly, when it's done without the heart being in it, it's never really done right. So now I am taking a page out of my own and I am Getting Creative. I am going to begin creating moments and days the way I would like them and hopefully it will inspire others to start creating moments from their heart.

Daddy's Babygirl

Someone once asked my Daddy if he wished I was a boy? My Daddy told me he immediately replied hell no! He loves me and extremely proud of me. I wasn't offended that someone asked him that question because I think its natural for a guy to want a son. My Dad told me just this past Sunday he was proud of me because he watched me grow from this little baby, to big girl, to a tom boy, to a beautiful lady. I think I am like my Dad in many ways. I have his chinky eyes, sense of sarcasm, athletic (Lord knows my Momma wasn't) and many other qualities. I once told my Daddy, "I will be your little boy and little girl." I was young when I said this but in so many ways I was. Anything my Daddy was doing I wanted to do. I loved and still do love the fact that when I got sick, my Daddy would make soup and applesauce and let me lay on his lap while I drank tea (even when I was in college) to help get me better. He could be eating dinner and I could walk in and eat food off of his plate. He would offer to make me a plate but I always refuse...I guess that's because I only want it because its his. People have asked me how come as an adult I still call him "Daddy?" The answer is simple, because he is my Daddy! I love him!

Change Your Mind

I have realized in life we make decisions in life that other do not always understand or think is best of for us. Automatically we go into defense mode and become the Defense Attorney to our life. You do not always have to defend yourself. People question some decisions we make because they care for us and just want the best. It is okay to politely say, "Thank you for your concern but right now I feel this is best for me. Later on if I feel this is not going the way I wanted it to, then we can revisit this and try to determine a better path for me, however for now, I am content with the decision I have made." (Give or take a few words...lol)
Furthermore, I have learned that we are a victim of familiarity. Meaning, we continue to deal, stay, love, and/or like situations that we are in and faced with because we are familiar with them and eventually become comfortable with them. Example: A woman stays in an abusive relationship because she is used to the abuse. It's not healthy, but she stays anyway. She should change her mind. Do not let others determine how your today or tomorrow is going to because because they are "familiar." It's okay to change your mind and dare to be different! Try something new! Change your mind as you see fit!

The Chosen Ones

We are born into a family being the kin of our parents and the descendants of our ancestors. That is a given. We do not have a choice. We are connected through blood, if nothing else. We marry into our in-laws...like or not,(It does not have to be bad because mines are pretty good) We don't get to choose them either. We are conncted through the love of a common person.
Our friends is where we get to have options and choices. I do not use the term "friend" loosely. It's interesting. No one can pinpoint a date when you became friends with someone. We meet people and develop some type of relationship with them be it, work related, health related, beautician, whatever. However, when you met you did not meet with the intensions of being friends. You start out being acquaintences and somewhere down the line when you look back you became friends. The friendship emerges without warning or any signs.
Each friendship should be valued! Some will be valued more than others simply because the bond between those two. Your friendships require work. It takes an effort from you and them to be understanding, caring, and supportive to really allow your friendship to endure the trials and tribulations that you will face to withstand the test of time. Some of your friendships will be valued more than even familial relationships only because that person chose to be apart of your life and accept you for who you really are. Even the Bible says, "who sticks closer than a brother," (Proverbs 18: 24).
Love your friends as if they are family because in some instances they may be all the family someone may have. I love my friends. They are all such wonderful people and all bring their own special quality into my life. I appreciate them for letting me into their lives choosing to be apart of mine. They are my chosen ones!

Stripped Natural

It's okay to be you. We do not have to cover ourselves in a ton of make up, regardless of the brand, or hide behind big label purses, shoes, and clothes. Ever wondered why a man will approach you they day you decide to go out of the house with a pair of sweats, hair pulled back in a ponytail (or wrapped in a scarf) and some random t-shirt that you usually only walk around the house in? Truth is, because he is finally able to see you for you. Not for your precious jewels and designer labels. He is able to see the person that that you really are.
All of those accessories and cosmetics it created just like the Mona Lisa. True indeed a woman is a work of art, however she is a work of art in her rarest form...Stripped Natural! Even if you have pimples, craters on your face, freckles, scars, blemishes whatever the trait maybe they are apart of your story, your character, and you! No one was born perfect and there is no need to act like we are. It is time for us to stop spending so much money trying to impress the opposite sex, when we are fine without all those things.

My husband tells me that he loves that I wake up in the morning looking the same way looked all day long. Its okay to be you...it's actually less work and refreshing.

Make it Plain

I have found that people often say one thing and do another or nothing at all. I have learned this it matters not what people say but what they do. We can all make great speeches and recite scriptures and quotes, but what happens when those words are put to the test? Are those words still as solid? Do they still mean anything to you? Actions prove more than words can say. Actions cannot be denied. When you really want to figure out who people are or if they really care for you; look at their actions. Words can often be misunderstood or are loosely translated into things that may or maynot be true, however actions are as plain as a blank sheet of paper.

"Committment is not found in the phrase "I love you". Its found in one's actions and the endurance of any situation.." Our mouths can form any statement and make it seem true. But our actions won't lie. Do your actions prove you are committed to wat you say you love?

Actions make it plain!

Blueprint

We all travel down our own path in life to eventually arrive at where we want to be...not just location but in health, education, personality, spirtituality, and love. We must realize that we go through things in life beginning as a young child until this very moment that help us create the blueprint to our lives. No ones journey is easy, not even those born with silver spoons in their mouths. We must have encounters with a variety of people, some friends, some family, even some strangers to be able recognize different traits that we want to possess and unexplored areas in our lives that we need to awaken.
I have had some time to reflect to realize there parts of my life that I was not so happy about. I did not want the public to think of me in those fashions or to leave the first impressions that I was leaving. But it's okay.
Part of this journey is maturation. It's such a beautiful thing. We must recognize that as we grow there are certain things that we once could get away with that we no longer can because we are not kids anymore. Throughout all the heartaches, lost friendships, education, independence, good times, bad times...we must take way something that we can learn from those experiences. Those key lessons help us transform into who we ultimately are today and who we will become tomorrow. The key is that you must be open to change and growth.
I have gone through things in my life and I have met some great people but all in all, I have developed into who I want to be. I know some people still wont like me but oh well. I love me! I have learned to be patient when I need to be and errupt when I have to. I learned to be sweet to those who deserve it and pay those who want nothing but negativity in my life no attention at all. I have learned to stand on my own two feet. I have learned how to shut my mouth and listen and to listen more. I have learned how to say no when I have to and yes when I can. I have learned to be a great friend and sister. I am continuing to learn how to be a great wife and mom but those lessons will continue everyday.
The blueprint to my life maybe complicated but it makes me treasure my journey even more. I love who I am today.

"patience is a secret weapon that forces deception to reveal itself" from The Conversation, Hill Harper