First Impressions

First Impressions are dangerous. They can either begin or quickly end relationships that could have been. Your actions, attire, the way you speak, smell, your attitude and so much more goes into the first impression you are bound to make on someone. Unfortunately, your first impression may be your only impression because humans as a species, seems to be programmed to judge others. It doesn't seem fair but it happens...most of the time.

The disturbing part about first impressions is that sometimes they do not allow room for a person to grow, mature, or change. Once the impression has been made, it seems to be set in stone. Remember that even though it's your first impression it doesn't have to be a lasting impression and it should not determine who a person is overall because you are not giving that person to show you who they are completely in a matter of seconds or minutes.

Remember that as quick as you are to cast judgement on another, someone else is casting judgement on you.

Thankful

2009 brought many memories for me. I moved to a new state, in a new house, and became a wife. I have an amazing husband who loves me unconditionally. I know we have our moments, however those moments truly show me how much we do love and appreciate one another. He is awesome.
I had alot of firsts last year: getting married, skiing, snow tubing, going to Vegas, going to the Dominican Republic to name a few. Life is about taking on new and exciting things and I plan to continue to do so this year as well.
I have such a wonderful friend base. All of the ladies in my life are beautiful and help me through life in their own special way...even when they don't know it. I treasure all the memories we have created, those memories that have yet to be created, and all the laughs that come along with just knowing you all.
None of this would be possible without God. I am so thankful for all the people and things that God has blessed me with. There are so many things that I am without, but in time God will bless with the things that He sees fit at the right time. I thank Him for his everlasting love! As my friend would say, "Go God!"
So this year no resoltutions! I will appreciate all that have and continue to just enjoy life on life's terms. I am blessed and loved and I am embracing it!

New Driver

"I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul." ~Invictus by William Ernest Henley

First and foremost William Ernest Henley's poem Invictus is very heartfelt and is an eye opener. I chose the last two lines because it spoke to me. Now is the time time to really be in control of your life. Stop riding in the passenger seat watching things go by and instead become the driver and determine where and how your life will be. There are so many people who allow others to make our decisions or our decisions are based off of trying please others that we are not pleased with ourselves. Tat is the wrong way to live your life. No one else lives your life. No one else is effected by the good or bad decisions that we make but yourself. No one else deals with the heartache or new love of your life except you, so why not make the decision that effects you?
What happens when that person that you are trying to please or the one that makes decisions for is no longer around (death, you stop being friends, or they are out of contact), then what do you do? Become the captain of your fate, the new driver in your life and make your own moves.

Memories

I just had the best online converstaion with a friend about things we used to do, or people we have met, and feelings we used to share. Both of us are laughing hysterically. I loved it! It's great to walk down memory lane. Memories are bookmarks in the book of life. We all have memories that sometimes makes us cry and sometimes make us laugh. I thank God for me being able to remember the good and the bad because they remind of far I have come in life and when those sad moments arise, a good memory can always make me laugh. Memories mark turning points in life, record moments that a photograph cannot, and becoming learning lessons! I am so blessed to have so many good memories and I look forward to having some more memories to create and fill my life with.

Getting Creative

I was pondering about a previous post "Change your Mind," which made me change my mind. What I want, how I want it, and who I want it from is alot of demands. If I want certain things I must start creating those things myself. I can ask someone to create those things for me, however I know that when I have to ask someone to do it for me, it's done because I asked not because their heart felt the need to do it. Honestly, when it's done without the heart being in it, it's never really done right. So now I am taking a page out of my own and I am Getting Creative. I am going to begin creating moments and days the way I would like them and hopefully it will inspire others to start creating moments from their heart.

Daddy's Babygirl

Someone once asked my Daddy if he wished I was a boy? My Daddy told me he immediately replied hell no! He loves me and extremely proud of me. I wasn't offended that someone asked him that question because I think its natural for a guy to want a son. My Dad told me just this past Sunday he was proud of me because he watched me grow from this little baby, to big girl, to a tom boy, to a beautiful lady. I think I am like my Dad in many ways. I have his chinky eyes, sense of sarcasm, athletic (Lord knows my Momma wasn't) and many other qualities. I once told my Daddy, "I will be your little boy and little girl." I was young when I said this but in so many ways I was. Anything my Daddy was doing I wanted to do. I loved and still do love the fact that when I got sick, my Daddy would make soup and applesauce and let me lay on his lap while I drank tea (even when I was in college) to help get me better. He could be eating dinner and I could walk in and eat food off of his plate. He would offer to make me a plate but I always refuse...I guess that's because I only want it because its his. People have asked me how come as an adult I still call him "Daddy?" The answer is simple, because he is my Daddy! I love him!

Change Your Mind

I have realized in life we make decisions in life that other do not always understand or think is best of for us. Automatically we go into defense mode and become the Defense Attorney to our life. You do not always have to defend yourself. People question some decisions we make because they care for us and just want the best. It is okay to politely say, "Thank you for your concern but right now I feel this is best for me. Later on if I feel this is not going the way I wanted it to, then we can revisit this and try to determine a better path for me, however for now, I am content with the decision I have made." (Give or take a few words...lol)
Furthermore, I have learned that we are a victim of familiarity. Meaning, we continue to deal, stay, love, and/or like situations that we are in and faced with because we are familiar with them and eventually become comfortable with them. Example: A woman stays in an abusive relationship because she is used to the abuse. It's not healthy, but she stays anyway. She should change her mind. Do not let others determine how your today or tomorrow is going to because because they are "familiar." It's okay to change your mind and dare to be different! Try something new! Change your mind as you see fit!